I am moved to compassion when I listen to the stories of women with endometriosis and polycystic ovarian syndrome who suffer both physically and financially because the prescribed treatments for these health conditions are not covered by their insurance providers. Their stories are told by one voice, the voice of Sandra Fluke. At no point in her eleven minute testimony to the House Democratic Steering and Policy Committee does Ms. Fluke talk about sex, multiple sex partners, or “sexual recreational activities”—but Rush Limbaugh did. During his radio show broadcast, Rush launched an acerbic, personal attack on Sandra Fluke, calling her a “slut” and a “prostitute” for “having lots of sex and wanting to get paid for it.”
Rush is not alone in his appetite for, or regurgitation of, ignorant swill. Last year, transcript and audio of a Southwest Airlines pilot’s rant to a fellow pilot about the company’s flight attendants was released to media and internet outlets:
“…Eleven fucking over the top ass-fucking homosexuals and a granny…two girls, one of them was part do-able…they’re still both (inaudible), you know what I mean? I still wouldn’t want anyone to know if I had banged them…”
Unfortunately, pejoratively asinine dialog is not limited to radio transmissions so that it could easily be switched off.
As a flight attendant, I am often subject to these types of denigrating comments at work. For 12 years, I responded nonverbally by rolling my eyes or walking away if the situation allowed—which is difficult when confined to a metal tube. My good girl behavior of repressing opposing opinions was rewarded by Colleen is a pleasure to have in class-type praise from management and colleagues. Only when I realized that my silence condoned and contributed to the perpetuation of this archaic assholery, did I decide to speak up.
Fearing adverse reactions (such as elementary name-calling by a bigoted bigmouth) or retaliation, people choose to remain silent. I understand that fear. Speaking out takes courage—courage that I do not have in large reserves. However, just like with any workout, the more I exercise my voice, the stronger I feel.
Do I think that my speaking out has the power to change someone’s behavior? Yes, I do. It changed my behavior.